Friday, November 27, 2009

Debatable thoughts

After a long time I am posting a new entry in this blog. As you all know writing an English blog is not an easy endeavor for me. Please tolerate with my language if you find any flaw.
I won’t say that after a lot of study I have written this but I can say that I have posted this after a lot of thinking.

As the title says, it’s purely arguable thoughts. You are most welcome to provide your opinion and argue with the thoughts I have posted here. I am not getting philosophical; it’s all my practical thoughts.

Perfection:
The word “Perfection” which we face in our day to day life is nothing but someone’s perception. There is no physical measurement for perfection. It’s all the perception of the person who is superior to us towards his necessities. If you are satisfying his necessity then you are perfect if not then you are not a perfectionist. Most of the times if you are trying to be a perfectionist you will end up hurting someone. For instance, as a human If you are helping someone to whom your friend is not in favor then you might end up hurting your friend’s emotion. It may be ambiguous to accept but it’s the fact. So perfection is all depends on the situation. That’s why “Perfection is nothing but someone’s perception”.

Attitude:
In this fast forwarding world you will often hear the word “Attitude”. People often complain about others saying “His/her attitude is wrong”. But when you evaluate the argument in the neutral point of view it will be useless at some point in time. Because one may not be correct all the time. Also we don’t have any right to comment on others’ attitude. So it finally comes under the assumption that Attitude is nothing but what you make others feel about you.

If you are a really sensible person, at some point in time of your life you will question yourself that “Why I am different to someone? Is there anything wrong with me?” i.e., you may be good to someone and awful to the other. How is this possible? Whether you are a multiple attitude person? I would beg to differ. You can only behave little unusual to those who says your attitude is wrong. It’s because your frequency doesn’t get along with them. Nothing is wrong with you; you just want to be what you are. So it’s good to keep distance to keep up your reputation else you have to explain them who you are and what you want from them. As I mentioned earlier in this passage in the fast forwarding world no one is ready to lend their ears for your justification. So the better solution will be act sensibly to avoid those people. After all “Attitude is nothing but what you make others to feel about you”.

Next topic I would like to share is the most interesting topic that every human being will face in his/her life. Yes, I would like to discuss about “CRUSH” in the forth coming passage.

Crush:
My definition of crush: “It's called as "CRUSH" because it get crushed inside us without being expressed”. Love is a divine thing but Crush is a “human thing” no one will disagree with me on this. Every human at some point in their life will have crush and it will remain in their heart till they rest in their graveyard. For everyone crush is an interesting one. Once we get a crush, at that moment we will forget our self and try to do some hilarious things to impress our crush. Butterflies will fly inside the stomach; heart beats will increase if she responds with a smile. I personally feel not to be friend with my crush. Though, if scenario made me to be friend with her certainly I can’t avoid. Also I would like to clear that we can’t love all people in our crush list.

Lover, whom we feel he /she suits us in all aspect of life but crush, is who attracts only at certain point in time. I am sure, lover will be our crush at one point in time but we might get convinced that they are our best suited partner. That person can’t be named as our crush, it is the one whom we like at an instance and we can’t express our love or we can’t feel our love but we crazed towards them. This might happen in our day to day life. We might get our crush either in bus journey or in our trip or during our shopping or at office, college or school or where ever we go in our routine life. I would say love and crush are feelings but love is from heart and crush is from brain. You can’t remember your entire crush list well I can say you will remember the one whom you can’t convert into love. I assure you will compare at least one characteristics of your crush to match with your partner. That’s the impact crush will made with in you. Well at certain scenario the situation won’t let you to express your love to the crush and those wish will get crushed inside you. That’s the reason I gave the following definition to the crush “It's called as "CRUSH" because it get crushed inside us without being expressed”.

You can’t agree with all the above points. But the perceptions and assumptions are different from others. Provide your comments or you can put your feedback to argue about my thoughts.

It’s all to share and it’s truly fair.

30 comments:

Rendezvous said...

Nice one. You do leave people confused hehe :). CRUSH, attitude i agree but when it comes to perfection i feel that the word perfection itself should not exist. No one is perfect. Not even GOD. It is a wrong perception that someone can be perfect. What i feel shoulf be defined as " Perfection is nothing but being close to 99.9% of perfection itself ".

beta said...

Nice one... Read this one recently.. So thot it may fit into the scheme of theings...

Friendship is minimum love.. Love is maximum friendship..

JSTHEONE said...

@realitykills,

Thnks four ur comment i do agree perfection doesnt exist as a exact quanity or wat ever tats y i mentioned it as somepne's perception :D

thnks for ur comment once again

JSTHEONE said...

@Beta: thanks for ur comment..

i completely with wat u have mentioned about love and friendship :D

Giri said...

perfection and perception vechi varthaijaalam panrike... good post maame :D

JSTHEONE said...

@Giri, thanks for ur comment maams.. vaarthai jaalam ellam illa da practical thought thana potten :P

Shanthagomathi said...

Good Work Saravanan... You have proved its worth to spend time to read your blog.
Keep it up...

JSTHEONE said...

@Shanthi: thanks for ur comment :)

Karthikha said...

nice post:) u 've crushed CRUSH to such an extent that i feel cells crushing in my brain now!! :P

JSTHEONE said...

@karthi: thanks a lot for ur comment...

Shruthi Gilla said...

I like ur 'CRUSH' theory...itz interesting.. nice one :)

JSTHEONE said...

@Shruthi:

Thnks a lot for comment :P

Nayana said...

"I assure you will compare at least one characteristics of your crush to match with your partner. "

gud point!!n if d partner is lackin in dat point, though he/she is "perfect"(YES!!depends on how we define perfection!!), in all others senses, you would still wish...

JSTHEONE said...

@Nayana:

Thanks a lot for ur comment.. finally u corelates the topics itself.. thnks anyway.. :P

Ashok said...

dude.. interesting post.. if u ve time, please read "7 habits of highly effective people".. many of ur thoughts r in line with the authors description.. good one dude..i liked the crush part pretty much..

JSTHEONE said...

@Ashok,

Thnks a lot dude sure i will try to read it... thanks a lot for encouragement...

Allvin said...

perfection;
It is the ultimate performance. It is performing to the full potential where there is no room for improvement or better behavior whether it is dealing with a situation, action, achievement or whatever. I don't understand how dealing a situation without/by hurting anyone makes one perfect. I don't think that someone will call anyone a perfect person just because he/she deal every situation without hurting anyone.


Attitude:

“Attitude is nothing but what you make others to feel about you”

I don't understand how you explained attitude from other person's point of view. The perception of things/world differ from each and every person. It depend on their own experience and since no 2 persons can have a same experience throughout their life time nobody can perceive the things is a same way. So your attitude is what you do and not what others perceive or feel about your actions.

eg: Helping a srilankan tamilan during a war may make the lankan army perceive you as an LTTE terrorist, the tamilan may perceive as a god, a normal person from Taml Nadu may feel that you are a socila activist but your actual attitude may be just to help the needy.

Crush:

Oh appadiya thala? :P

Srihari said...

Nice one, and really appreciate the way you have expressed your thougths.

Perfection is more of a comparison thing or a relative with respect to another person doing the same job. For e.g. terming Federer as perfect tennis player, yes in the current scheme of things he is a perfect tennis player who fits the bill. As said by others, one can never achieve 100% perfection or even close to 99% perfection.

Attitude, is more of ones perception of doing things.

CRUSH is more of a lingo term that we have been using.

JSTHEONE said...

@Allvin thanks for ur comment nanba...

i do agree with ur point on perfection... but u explained the point with respect to person who s doing... but i did with respect to the reciever or evaluator.. becoz.. in ur point of view one may not satisfied wit the result.... but if the person go in my view he will be atleast happy about the result..

Attitude: if u r judging ur attitude nothing fruitful other shld judge i explained in the way...

Anyway thanks a ton for ur comment... :D

JSTHEONE said...

@Srihari:

Thanks a lot for ur comment and encouragement machi...

perfection our view r pretty similar but in attitude i jus explained the viewer's perspective....

Crush as u said its jus lingo term... but i jus wanna explore more on it...

Unknown said...

Hey JS,
This is the first blog of ur's that i am reading, and it is making me want to read other ones of ur's. I do agree with your views about 'Perfection' and 'Attitude' but i am little confused reading the 'Crush' part.

Ruminations of a Disturbed mind! said...

Anna nice post! Correct ah solli irukkinga. Let's come to my comments on individual isues you have talked about.
Perfection:
Anna U have told that perfection depends on one's perception. But seriously na, do u think that our perfection depends on other's perception? I think that we must not care about wat role others play in our perfection. We need to be perfect for ourselves. Not to satisfy some X, Y or Z. A third person's opinion matters little in our life. There's a saying I would like to quote at this point. "If you try to keep everyone happy, you will be the biggest failure in life". We must always live for ourselves. Do wat brings joy to ourself, rather than bother about others' perception. We cannot attain overall perfection for sure, but we can attain perfection in our point of view for sure.
Attitude:
Seriously, we shouldn't bother about the other person's attitude nor comment upon it. But when someone's attitude affects us, we gain the right of expressing our view towards it. It is seriously irritating when someone puts on an attitude which doesn't belong to him. the boss attitude certain ppl have, must be broken whenever he/she tries to boss us around. Self esteem is always a priority.
Crush:
After handling two serious characteristics like perfection and attitude, i do not know y u came to crush. Although u have put out good thoughts, I think this has taken away the coherence of your blog. U could ve talked bout some other serious issue here! Anyways good going na. keep posting!

JSTHEONE said...

@Tanuja: thanks a lot for ur comment and encouragement :D

JSTHEONE said...

@Ashok: thnks for comment machi...

u expressed it in creator's view but i explained it in evaluator's view....

ur creation is worthy only if there is evaluation is done....

adha thaan i hav explained it over here...

i do agree i must hav put the crush part in separate post....

:D

thanks for ur encouragement machi

Ruminations of a Disturbed mind! said...

Looking forward to more posts from u na!

Unknown said...

Gud one :)
Appreciated your thoughts
I sincerely feel that nobody is perfect but then why is it said that 'Practice makes a man Perfect' ??????
Liked ur quote on CRUSH...Its interesting...

JSTHEONE said...

@AShok: sure machi i will try to give my best

JSTHEONE said...

@Mahek:

thanks a lot for comment... some ppl want practice to get their desired output so they might have told tat proverb :P

Vapurdha said...

U've got enuf comments it seems.. :) happy for this excellent post..

“It's called as "CRUSH" because it get crushed inside us without being expressed”. - liked this one :) :)

Ajithkumar Krishnakumar said...

u must've taken a lot of time to write that up eh... just got the link to this blog from ur tamil blog.. good.. keep writing..