Wednesday, February 18, 2009

EGO - Exit of Golden Opportunity

Actually I was looking for a topic to put up in my blog, and I ended up deciding the title 'EGO'. I am not a pro in English so I searched in a dictionary, the meaning of EGO, so that I can put up something to share with you people. When I searched in an online dictionary it said "An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit" and "Appropriate pride in oneself; self-esteem".

Whatever the dictionaries and scholars say, for me EGO is the Exit of Golden Opportunity. Obviously, when you have an EGO, that will be the exit gate for your opportunities letting all your chances wasted.

Certainly everyone has some Egoism in them. Only sometimes, that too rarely, EGO will lead to a success. As an optimist, I would like to discuss some of the rare success stories. Some tasks may be really impossible for us, but a certain Ego in us will lead us to complete the task and attain a peak in our life. After reaching the next step in our life we should leave the EGO behind us, or we will be stagnant in that position. Since I oppose Adamant Egoism I don't want to discuss more on the few merits on EGO.

EGO not only lets you down in life but also destructs your environment and the nature. Let me discuss with you some different things I know. In a state, Ruling party will have EGO with opposition party they won't turn to their suggestions. Also Opposition party will try to complain the ruling party always, instead of cooperating with them and getting valuable plans for the people. Result, ruling party will be the opposition in the next election and same nature of opposition will be imposed on the ruling party. The particular state won't have any development in the end. This kind of Egoism will cause loss to a huge mass of the people.

During school days people used to have the 'topper' EGO. That is common between the school students because they are in the learning stage. They used to fight for silly things and they used to get them solved by themselves. All these kind of characters change once they enter into the college. Because college is the place where we learn things needed for living a pleasant life. But again, ego makes college life struggling. Perhaps school is the place to study and to build a solid foundation for our higher studies.

Let's keep the philosophical points aside; we will discuss the normal things that happen in our life. There is even more influence of ego in the friendship between people. This kind ego raises the questions like, "How come I am inferior to him/her?" in them. Because of the ego these questions keep on affecting the friendship and eventually people lose their friends.

If a person finds right person or lovable person to share life, they won't reveal it immediatly. Because of some unnecessary ego, they won't tell the other person about their interest. Though both of them have interests on each other they don't reveal their love. That's why I had mentioned early in the passage that EGO means the "Exit of Golden Opportunity".

Because of the ego we lose opportunities, partners, positions, people and many more important things in our life, and what else. Let's kill the ego in us and give a try to be a lovable and approachable person to others.

I don't have any intention to force this message to the readers, I just want to share my views which I came across in my life.

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

Ranjith here.. Nice article. Exit of Golden Opportunity is a nice way to describe it.

>> "How come I am inferior to him/her?"
I totally agree with you on that.
But the next paragraph you say

>> If a person finds right person or lovable person to share life, they won't reveal it immediatly. Because of some unnecessary ego, they won't tell the other person about their interest. Though both of them have interests on each other they don't reveal their love. That's why I had mentioned early in the passage that EGO means the "Exit of Golden Opportunity".

Not speaking about a person's interest in someone needn't be because of the person's EGO. It just may be the person's shyness or "How will I say it? , What will the person think? " approach. Maybe or Maybe not its a loss of golden opportunity. Maybe it was just an infactuation.

But anyways i like the way u keep up ur blog :)

Giri said...

point 1. if u dont have ego, u wont have confidence... so u must have some ego to keep u motivated...
point 2 politics has nothing to do with ego.. it was meant to be that way... its grudge..
point 3. there is a difference between egosim and egotism.. chk it out..
anways gud updation slightly off tipic but on track of interest.. keep it up.. machaa..

JSTHEONE said...

Ranjith thanks for ur comment...

I do agree with u ..i didnt mention the ppl who dont guts to express thier i mention the ppl who hav ego to express their love.....

Exact example i can mention is Khushi movie... both know they are in love wit each other but something hinder them in conveying... i mention that situation...

JSTHEONE said...

Giri thanks a lot for ur comments..

1. i do agree that we need ego to boast over confidence i hav mentioned tat da...

2. i mentioned politics becoz they will hav thoughts "How come they can implement this plan" i jus put tat attitude in the category of EGO da..

3. i didnt get that actually i will look it up da...

once again thanks for the motivation da...

Srihari said...

Exit of Golden Opportunity is what you explain as EGO. To mean its means Entry to Gone Opportunity of the other person.

Its the EGO of others that i believe we need to capitalize on and its an entry for you and me to use the lost opportunity on others being egoistic.

But a nice thought to put down, completely different from your usual ones. Happy Blogging :-)

JSTHEONE said...

Srihari i would totally agree da Entry to Gone Opportunity i accept this point....

I thought in a way but u did in the other way da... ya certainly becoz of waste ego we are losing oppurtunities.....

Thanks for ur encouragement machi...

Unknown said...

Hi Thala,
AS for me,
1). Everyone has EGO to achieve some thing. If you dont have you can't get in up in your life.
2).We should not have ego with FRIENDS. If you have EGO within friends its going to down our life.
There is one great proverb in tamil;
"Potti irrukalam Poram irruka kodathu "

JSTHEONE said...

machi, i do accepted tat in the passage as a merit....

also presently u cant say every one is free without ego...still ter r some ego available.. i jus want to convey its not gud...

anyway thanks for the comment machi...
thanks a lot...

Unknown said...

Ya really... I do accept i am having EGO some time with in friends... i like to remove that from me......

JSTHEONE said...

Cool da.. keep going

Fahad Y Mohammed said...

good post machi... The abbreviation thing is an awesome idea..

Anonymous said...

No Comments Buddy on ur blog.... But if you ask me I would say there needs to be always some amount of ego present within urself to burn the fire of acheiving success. Other than that I dont see any affirmative essence to have ego within ones self.

Thanks,

Jagath.

Ashok said...

Good article dude. Am expecting still in depth focus.. since I love thirukural, u can easily refer these topics with our abundant wealth thirukural.

First of all, I will discuss abt the negative points of ego.. If u have ego, u wont listen to anyone and what u feel tat is the conclusion for most of the problems.. U wont open to discussion r open to any info,..

Here is the Kural, i would suggest u to read 1st and 7th kural..

All these kural we studied in our school days..


121. அடக்கம் அமரருள் உய்க்கும் அடங்காமை
ஆரிருள் உய்த்து விடும்.

அடக்கம் என்னும் உயரிய குணம் ஒருவருக்கு சுவர்க்கத்தை அளிக்கும், அடக்கமின்மையோ கொடிய நரகத்தில் சேர்த்துவிடும்.

122. காக்க பொருளா அடக்கத்தை ஆக்கம்
அதனினூஉங் கில்லை உயிர்க்கு.

ஒருவருக்கு அடக்கத்தைவிட அவரின் உயிர்க்குக் காவலாய் அமைவது வேறெதுவுமில்லை.

123. செறிவறிந்து சீர்மை பயக்கும் அறிவறிந்து
ஆற்றின் அடங்கப் பெறின்.

ஒருவர் அறிவாற்றலுடன் அடக்கமுடனும் நடந்துகொள்வானாயின் அதுவே அவனுக்குப் பெருமையளிக்கும்

124. நிலையின் திரியாது அடங்கியான் தோற்றம்
மலையினும் மாணப் பெரிது.

தன் நிலையிலிருந்து மாறாமல் அடங்கி நடப்பவனே மலையைக் காட்டிலும் பெரியவனாய் கருதப்படுவான்.

125. எல்லார்க்கும் நன்றாம் பணிதல் அவருள்ளும்
செல்வர்க்கே செல்வம் தகைத்து.

பணிவு என்பது எல்லார்க்கும் நன்மையேயாயினும் செல்வந்தர்களுக்கு அது மேலும் ஒரு செல்வமாகக் கருதப்படும்.

126. ஒருமையுள் ஆமைபோல் ஐந்தடக்கல் ஆற்றின்
எழுமையும் ஏமாப் புடைத்து.

ஒரு பிறவியில் ஒருவன் தன் ஐம்புலன்களையும் அடக்கினால் அது அவனுக்கு ஏழு பிறப்புக்கும் பாதுகாப்பளிக்கும்

127. யாகாவா ராயினும் நாகாக்க காவாக்கால்
சோகாப்பர் சொல்லிழுக்குப் பட்டு.

ஒருவன் தன் நாக்கை அடக்காவிட்டால் அதுவே அவனுக்குத் தீராதப் பழியை உண்டாக்கி விடும்

128. ஒன்றானுந் தீச்சொல் பொருட்பயன் உண்டாயின்
நன்றாகா தாகி விடும்.

ஒரே ஒரு தீயசொல்லினால் அப்போது பொருட்பயன் கிட்டுவது போலிருந்தாலும் அதனால் விளையப்போகும் நன்மை ஒன்றுமில்லை

129. தீயினாற் சுட்டபுண் உள்ளாறும் ஆறாதே
நாவினாற் சுட்ட வடு.

ஒருவரைத் தீயினால் சுட்டாலும் அது காலப்போக்கில் ஆறிவிடும், ஆனால் அவரின் மனம் புண்படும்படி பேசியது என்றும் ஆறாத்தழும்பாய் இருந்து வருத்தும்.

130. கதங்காத்துக் கற்றடங்கல் ஆற்றுவான் செவ்வி
அறம்பார்க்கும் ஆற்றின் நுழைந்து.

தன் சினத்தை காத்து, கல்வி கற்று, அடக்கத்துடனும் நடப்பவனை அவன் வழியிலே சென்று அறக்கடவுள் அவனைத் தகுந்த காலத்தில் பார்க்கும்


Add to this, if u ve time pls refer auvayaar..

Here is the recent film padal (Ego= ஆணவம்,நான்,எனது,தற்பெருமை etc.,) I would be happy if u would have refer the meaning of Ego in tamil.

ada naan enra aanavam azhiya vaiththaay
un paarvaiyilae ennaip paniya vaiththaay
en aaradi uyaraththai abagariththaay

Positive points are lot.

Its really hard to list all the points, but pls find some info

1) If 2 ego persons talk each other, definetly u can gain lots of info.

Example: Netrikan thirapinulum kutram kutramae, out of the poets ego, v came to know penin koonthal manam. I would suggest u to have a look at tharkaa sasthraam. Tats an interesting one.

2) Ego is the one which differentiate one among other. It is the one which makes u to ask question. It is the one to evaluate every findings. There are hell lot of stuff inside to it.

I really enjoyed, thx for reminding me about tharka sathram, thirukural, auvaai seyyul and lots and lots of thing..

Am really impressed with ur zeal and interest towards this topic.

Keep doing good work and i will keep reading ur blog.

JSTHEONE said...

@ Fahad thanks a lot machi..

@ Jagath i do mentioned that as an adv...

But thro this post i jus want to bring out the drawbacks of it...

JSTHEONE said...

@ Ashok,

i do agree machi.. without a little bit of ego we cant standout in a crowd...

thro this i jus want to bring the difficulties facing thro EGO...

Glory said...

This article is really super yaar

The abbrievation of EGO is very nice.

Every man of action has a strong dose of egoism, pride, hardness, and cunning. But all those things will be regarded as high qualities if he can make them the means to achieve great ends.

keep it up....

JSTHEONE said...

Thanks for ur comment

nayana said...

Exit of Golden Oppurtunity??!!
LOL...good one!

APJ Kalam says 'Ego is the driving force to success'.. well...not to great extent..but, it is d pride in us- to excel, to be appreciated, dat really drives us to do thgs dat wud lead u to success..a small amt of ego wud be a nice touch..i suppose!!

JSTHEONE said...

@nayana: thanks a lot for ur comments.. even i hav conveyed the same thing.. little amt of EGO will lead to success but not all the time :P

Anonymous said...

Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with you